Arrange Marriages….!!!

When as a kid I always found marriages interesting, as I started growing up, I learnt that there are types of marriages one is arrange marriage & other is love marriage!! Concept of love marriages was well understood by me but about arrange marriages, it was always above my level!!I always wonder without love how can
people marry??!! & how do they marry in that way!!?? How is it possible to live with someone you don’t know at all or don’t know anything, when I used say this to my mom, she always said me, did you ever knew your friends to whom you know now!! I used to not understand what to say to her!! Once I was just thinking by sitting on my couch, just like that & that was time when my parents & cousin sister’s parents were searching for a groom for her, she was heading for arrange marriage, So my thoughts started floating in about the Great Indian Arrange Marriage Concept!! Soon while thinking & thinking constantly, I seriously figured out many things about Arrange Marriage & About Marriages Too!!Which made me hate Arrange Marriages more, even currently I don’t find it appropriate!!                                                                                  


Floating of thought that time made me think that, Arrange marriages are like going In the shop for buying a dress,                                                                                                                                                            
Where we see-

Is the dress in our budget, Likewise they see is a girl in budget i.e, she shouldn't be above the standards of a guy, she shouldn't be over expensive for him!!

Is the dress really comfortable, will the girl be comfortable with the family of guy……will she adjust??!!

Is the dress first hand, is the girl/guy virgin or not??!!!

Is it beautiful, is the girl/guy beautiful!!!??

How is the material of dress, How is the nature of a person!!??

Which Brand the dress is, What’s the family background, Is she/he qualified, rich & so on!!!

Basically its an Absolute business & there are different packages, choose the best package for you!!
But is love about Money, Beauty, all
that materialistic things!!?? Which aren’t stable.                                          




About Beauty, it never lasts it always fades with time & fat people can be slim & slim people can be
fat.                                                                                                                                                                  

About money, its an unstable factor at times person may be rich & at times poor.                                                                                  

About virginity, well always sex never means love!! Love can be indicated even by normal touch, a simple care & normal phone call which can make u realize that a person loves you!! As Love is all about love & not virginity!!                                                                                                                                           

About one being comfortable, it comes with bonding, sharing & the progress of relationship. As person understands you, they will start becoming comfortable & comfort zone will naturally come in!!                                                                                                                                                      

About person isn’t your type than again people never really wish to change but they do change when they are in love, as love makes it possible in that way!!

Well!! That’s what I feel!! Not necessary all feel in same way!! There are many men out there who give

importance to virginity & all that stuffs, even in love marriage as they choose their girl friends in that way. There are also women in this way!! But does Love really means sleeping with anyone, why can’t it be in caring, sharing, being honest & so on!! Well when in love, making love naturally comes in but falling in love never means judging, if you are judging anyone on virginity, money, beauty or anything else than that’s not love at all!! As love never judges, its not in expecting, moreover it’s in watching your love happy where he/she is!! Well…..but arrange marriages never counts all this!!! They are the-choose the best package deals!! Which I really & honestly hate to the core!! Anyways, Arrange marriage or Love marriage, Love Is Important in it, which means Not To Judge & Willingness To Change Yourself!! At The End Of The Day I Would Love To Say, Whichever Marriage it is than

May It Be Arrange Marriage or Love Marriage is Not Important But Important Is- The Depth Of Honesty in it,
Accepting A Person fully with his/her scars, flaws & what so ever, Willingness To Change & Understand from both the sides should be there & Finally How Long That Marriage Lasts For Its Really Important…….!!!